How much of who we are, or who we become, is because of our mother’s example? That is one of the questions the Marys delve into as they look at the example of their mother’s friendships in Chapter Two of Mary & Me: A Lasting Link Through Ink. Mary K’s mother died in November 2010, so she relied on her own memories, a box full of letters her mother had written her grandmother during her child-rearing days, and a Memory Book her mother had filled out. Mary H’s mother is still alive, so her section of the chapter is an interview with her. The book includes a Discussion Section at the back, ideal for use by women’s groups and Book Clubs. In honor of Mother’s Day, we gift potential readers with a sneak peek at the Chapter Two discussion section:
Chapter Two: Mothers
“But there’s a story behind everything. How a picture got on a wall. How a scar got on your face. Sometimes the stories are simple, and sometimes they are hard and heartbreaking. But behind all your stories is always your mother’s story, because hers is where yours begin.”
—Mitch Albom, For One More Day
1. Mary K.’s mother had not been an example in regards to adult female friendships. How important do you think it is to be a role model to our daughters in this aspect?
2. Both Mary K. and her mother struggled to balance a tight budget with raising babies. Do you think it is harder for a mother in poverty to develop friendships? Why or why not?
3. Mary K.’s mother was afraid to tell her friend about her cancer, worrying that she would tell her “I told you so” about her smoking. Are there any friends you would hesitate to share a cancer diagnosis with?
4. Mary H. enjoyed interviewing her mom about her friendships. What questions would you ask your mom about friendship? What other questions might you like to ask her?
5. Mary H. had never heard about Nancy, her mom’s friend who had tragically died in a fire. Have you ever learned anything about or from your mother that surprised you?
6. What do you remember about your mother’s friends?